Niaj hnub no, zoo li leej twg uas muaj lub siab nyiam ua txhua yam tab tom tso cov lus "kink" thiab "fetish."
"Kuv yeej nyiam noj ice cream," qee tus yuav hais tom qab noj cov khoom qab zib mis nyuj ob zaug sib law liag.
Yog vim li ntawd peb thiaj li tau muab cov lus qhia no tso ua ke rau kinks thiab fetishes. Hauv qab no, nyeem ntxiv kom paub txog qhov kink yog dab tsi thiab fetish yog dab tsi - thiab kev nkag siab txog yuav ua li cas tshawb nrhiav cov kinks thiab fetishes.
Ib qho kev sib deev kink yog txhua yam uas dhau mus dhau qhov ciam teb ntawm qhov uas lub zej zog xav tias yog "kev sib deev ib txwm" thiab ua rau muaj kev ntshaw kev sib deev.
Vim tias qhov ua rau muaj kev sib deev nyob ntawm seb koj lub zej zog puas zoo li qub lossis tsis yog, nws nyob ntawm ntau yam, suav nrog:
Yog li, piv txwv li, ib tug neeg uas feem ntau mloog suab paj nruag teb chaws (tsis suav nrog kev tham ntau dhau ntawm qhov quav) yuav pom lawv qhov kev txaus siab ntawm kev sib deev qhov quav ua ib qho kev nyiam qhov quav. Ntawm qhov tod tes, cov neeg uas lawv zaj nkauj nyiam yog "Truffle Butter" tej zaum yuav xav tias lawv txoj kev nyiam qhov quav yog qhov nyiam.
Qhov ntawd txhais tau tias yog ib tug neeg hais tias lawv coj txawv txawv, koj yuav tsum nug cov lus qhia meej kom paub tias qhov ntawd txhais li cas. Tau kawg, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob nug ~ib tug neeg xwb~ ib lo lus nug tus kheej.
"Cov kev xav tsis zoo feem ntau yog kev tswj hwm thiab kev mloog lus, kev ua qhev thiab kev tu siab (qhov ntawd yog cov ntawv hauv BDSM sawv cev rau)," tus kws tshawb nrhiav kev sib deev thiab tus kws qhia kev sib deev Kenneth Play, ntawm lub zej zog thoob ntiaj teb Hacienda Villa tus tsim.
Raws li kws kho mob poj niam txiv neej Dr. Carol Queen ntawm lub tuam txhab khoom ua si sib deev Good Vibrations, muaj qee cov lus txhais ntawm fetishes.
"Tam sim no, cov kws qhia txog kev sib deev tsis tshua txhais cov fetishes tias yuav tsum yog ib feem ntawm kev sib deev," Queen hais. "Hloov chaw, ib qho kev txhais tshiab hais tias fetishes yog porn superchargers."
Piv txwv li, ib tug neeg uas muaj lub ntsej muag liab yuav muaj peev xwm (thiab txaus siab!) kom muaj kev sib deev nrog ib tug neeg uas tsis muaj lub ntsej muag liab, nws hais tias. "Tab sis cov neeg liab tseem tshwj xeeb thiab tso cai rau peb kom muaj kev paub txog kev saib duab liab qab hauv txoj kev uas muaj zog dua li thaum nws tsis nyob ntawd," nws piav qhia.
Tyler Sparks, tus kws qhia txog kev sib deev thiab tus tsim lub tuam txhab Organic Loven, yog ib lub khw muag khoom loj tshaj plaws hauv online uas BIPOC muaj, hais tias qhov sib txawv qee zaum txhais tau tias yog qhov sib txawv ntawm kev xav tau (fetishes) thiab kev nyiam (kinks).
"Muaj ib tug neeg pom tias hnav khau siab thaum sib deev ua rau muaj kev zoo siab," nws hais. "Tab sis cov neeg uas xav tau hnav khau siab thaum sib deev kom muaj kev xav zoo siab muaj cov pob taws siab."
Qee zaum qhov kev sib txawv no yog txhais tias yog qhov sib txawv ntawm kev raug tsa los ntawm kev ua phem tshwj xeeb, qhov chaw nyob, lossis kev hloov pauv (kink) thiab kev raug tsa los ntawm ib yam khoom, khoom siv, lossis qhov tsis yog ntawm lub cev (fetish).
Yog tias koj tab tom sim txiav txim siab seb ib yam dab tsi yog kink lossis fetish, koj yuav nug koj tus kheej qee cov lus nug:
Muaj tseeb tiag. Tej zaum koj muaj ib tug cwj pwm txawv thiab ib tug fetish. Los yog ob qho tib si. Tej zaum koj yuav muaj tej hnub uas zoo li ib tug kink, thiab lwm hnub muaj ib tug crush.
"Kev tshawb nrhiav ob qho tib si suav nrog kev qhib siab rau kev lom zem porn, ua siab ncaj txog qhov koj yeej saib taus thiab nrhiav kev hloov pauv, qee zaum daws qhov txaj muag ntawm kev txawv, thiab paub txog qhov no ua si li cas hauv koj lub neej thiab kev sib deev nrog cov neeg koom tes muaj peev xwm ua lub luag haujlwm hauv kev coj cwj pwm," nws hais.
"Rau qee tus neeg, lawv cov kev xav thiab kev ntshaw yog qhov pom tseeb me ntsis," Play hais. "Piv txwv li, yog tias, thaum lub caij ntuj sov ntawm koj cov tub ntxhais hluas, koj tsis tuaj yeem pab tab sis ntsia ntsoov rau txhua tus neeg hnav khau khiab, thiab xav tias horny los ntawm kev pom ko taw, koj yuav paub tias koj nyiam ko taw."
Lub caij no, rau lwm tus, qhov kink lossis fetish tej zaum yuav yog ib yam dab tsi uas lawv tshawb pom los ntawm kev tshawb nrhiav tej yam, xws li porn, movies, lossis ib tus hlub tshiab uas ua rau lawv pom tej yam tshiab. Thaum ntsib tej yam tshiab, koj pom txhua yam txog yam koj nyiam thiab tsis nyiam, nws hais.
Yog tias koj nyob hauv lub yeej tom kawg thiab xav paub ntxiv txog koj cov quirks thiab fetishes, cov lus qhia no yuav pab tau.
"Muaj kev ntsuam xyuas online pub dawb, hu ua BDSM test, uas tuaj yeem pab koj kawm paub ntau ntxiv txog cov kinks uas koj nyiam," Sparks hais. "Nws yog qhov pib zoo."
Muab ntau yam kev coj cwj pwm, kev npaj, qhov chaw, thiab cov khoom rau hauv daim ntawv teev cov kab raws li koj nyiam sim, thiab daim ntawv teev "yog-tsis yog-tej zaum" tuaj yeem pab koj txheeb xyuas cov khoom uas ua rau koj lub cev zoo siab.
Muaj ntau daim ntawv teev npe Yog-Tsis Yog-Tej zaum hauv Is Taws Nem. Tab sis kom paub txog koj cov kev coj cwj pwm thiab kev xav, nws yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws kom muaj ib daim nrog lub txhab nyiaj nyob hauv qab, zoo li daim no los ntawm Bex Talks.
"Ib yam li txhua yam kev paub ntawm tib neeg, tej yam thiab tej xwm txheej hloov pauv," nws hais. "Qee zaum tej yam uas ua rau koj zoo siab thaum koj muaj 20 xyoo tsis muaj qhov nyiam zoo ib yam. Tab sis thaum peb paub ntau ntxiv txog peb lub cev thiab kev ntshaw, vim tib neeg xav paub ntau yam, peb nrhiav kev paub sib txawv."
Txij li cov yeeb yaj kiab porn mus rau cov ntawv sau porn, cov rooj sib tham hauv online mus rau cov platform sib tham, hauv internet muaj ntau lub sijhawm los kawm paub ntau ntxiv txog koj cov fetishes thiab fetishes.
"Mus saib lub vev xaib duab liab qab, xws li Royal Fetish Films, kom muab sijhawm rau koj pom koj tus cwj pwm kink ua haujlwm," nws hais. "Lwm lub vev xaib kink yog FetLife, lub vev xaib fetish thiab kink social. Nyob ntawd koj yuav pom ntau tus neeg zoo li koj uas tab tom tshawb nrhiav, muaj kev paub dhau los thiab / lossis tau txais kev cob qhia."
Los ntawm cov chaw no, nws hais tias, koj yuav muaj peev xwm nyeem lawv cov dab neeg thiab tej zaum nug tus thawj coj pab pawg ib lossis ob lo lus nug txog koj tus kheej cov cwj pwm lossis lawv pom lawv li cas.
Sparks hais tias, kev nyob hauv koj thaj chaw xis nyob thiab thaj chaw tsis xis nyob tuaj yeem pab koj nkag siab zoo dua txog koj txoj kev sib deev thiab kev nyiam poj niam txiv neej.
"Kev paub koj tus kheej cov ciam teb tuaj yeem pab koj txheeb xyuas seb koj xav tshawb nrhiav dab tsi thiab tsis yog dab tsi," nws hais.
Qhov koj yuav kawm yuav txawv nyob ntawm seb koj xav kawm dab tsi. Tiam sis txawm li cas los xij: nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb.
"Kev kawm yuav tsum ua ntej koj qhov kev paub dhau los, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum nws los txog rau txhua yam uas cuam tshuam nrog kev ua si hnyav, kev mob, kev txwv tsis pub ua, lossis lwm yam uas yuav suav tias yog qhov txaus ntshai," Play hais. Kev kawm no yog qhov tseem ceeb kom koj thiab koj tus khub muaj kev nyab xeeb ntawm lub cev, kev xav, thiab sab ntsuj plig.
Rau hom kev kawm no, nws pom zoo kom ntiav ib tus kws tshaj lij txog kev sib deev—piv txwv li, tus kws qhia kev sib deev, tus kws kho kev sib deev, tus neeg nyiag kev sib deev, lossis tus neeg ua haujlwm txog kev sib deev.
Poj huab tais hais tias cov neeg ua haujlwm sib deev yuav muaj kev paub ntau yam hauv ob qho tib si, ua rau lawv yog qhov kev xaiv zoo rau kev tshawb nrhiav cov kinks lossis fetishes thawj zaug.
"Cov kws tshaj lij yuav muaj cov ntaub ntawv ntxiv txog ntau yam kev xav tsis zoo, thiab nws yooj yim dua los tham thiab sib tham nrog, thiab nws tuaj yeem zoo li chaw kuaj mob rau kev tshawb nrhiav koj txoj kev sib deev," nws hais.
Yog tias koj xav tshawb nrhiav nrog tus khub, nws hais tias nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum xaiv tus khub uas koj xis nyob tham nrog - thiab rov qab los.
"Txawm tias ua ntej koj koom nrog ntau hom kev ua si sib deev nrog ib tus neeg, koj tuaj yeem kawm paub tias lawv xis nyob npaum li cas hauv kev sib deev, nws yooj yim npaum li cas los sib txuas lus nrog lawv, thiab seb lawv puas qhia kev txiav txim siab txog lwm tus kev xaiv kev sib deev los txiav txim siab seb lawv puas haum," nws hais.
Nws yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws los xaiv tus khub uas feem ntau xis nyob nrog koj cov lus cev (thiab vice versa) thiab txaus siab ua haujlwm nrog koj ntawm kev tshawb fawb ua ntej.
Thaum kawg ntawm hnub, nws tsis muaj teeb meem yog tias tej yam koj nyiam kev sib deev raug cais ua kinky, fetish, lossis tsis yog ib qho! Tab sis tshawb nrhiav seb dab tsi coj kev xyiv fab rau koj hauv txoj kev nyab xeeb, dawb thiab zoo siab.
Gabrielle Kassel yog ib tug kws sau ntawv txog kev sib deev thiab kev noj qab haus huv hauv New York thiab yog ib tug kws qhia CrossFit Level 1. Nws tau dhau los ua ib tug neeg sawv ntxov, sim ntau dua 200 lub vibrators, noj mov, haus dej, txhuam nrog thee - txhua yam hauv lub npe ntawm kev sau xov xwm. Thaum nws muaj sijhawm dawb, nws tuaj yeem nyeem cov phau ntawv pab tus kheej thiab cov dab neeg hlub, lub rooj zaum nias lossis seev cev ncej. Ua raws li nws ntawm Instagram.
Kev lom zem ntawm cov khoom ua si sib deev tsis xaus nrog cov vibrators! Yog tias koj npaj txhij ntxiv cov khoom ua si ... nyeem ntxiv ... cov khoom ua si siab heev xws li pob ntsaws ...
Koj yuav tsum zoo dua li faux BDSM hauv Fifty Shades of Grey, yog li peb tau muab tso ua ke ib daim ntawv qhia txog kev mloog lus kev sib deev. Cia peb khawb tob dua!
Kev tshawb nrhiav txog qhov zis yog kev muab ib yam khoom ua si ntxig rau hauv qhov zis - lub raj uas nqa cov zis tawm ntawm lub zais zis. Kev xyaum no pib nrog ...
Nurx yog ib lub tuam txhab kev kho mob hauv xov tooj uas muab kev tswj kom tsis txhob muaj menyuam, kev tiv thaiv kev xeeb tub thaum muaj xwm txheej ceev, PrEP, thiab cov khoom siv kuaj mob STI hauv tsev.
Kev paub txog koj tus mob STI tam sim no, suav nrog koj tus mob gonorrhea, yog qhov tseem ceeb. Kev kuaj mob gonorrhea hauv tsev ua rau qhov no yooj yim dua. Nov yog yuav pib li cas.
Kev ua haujlwm tes tsis yog tsuas yog cov khoom noj rau cov tub ntxhais hluas xwb. Lawv yog ib qho kev lom zem rau txhua tus neeg uas muaj tus qau thiab lawv cov neeg koom tes. Nov yog yuav ua li cas muab ...
Thaum nws los txog rau zaub mov, tej zaum koj xav txog yam koj muab tso rau hauv koj lub cev, yog li vim li cas ho tsis txuas ntxiv qhov kev xav ntawd mus rau cov roj nplua nyeem uas koj siv ...