I kēia mau lā, me he mea lā e hoʻokuʻu ana kekahi mea me ka makemake iki i kekahi mea i nā huaʻōlelo "kink" a me "fetish."
"He makemake maoli koʻu i ka ʻaikalima," wahi paha a kekahi ma hope o ka ʻai ʻana i nā mea ʻono waiū he nui.
ʻO ia ke kumu i hoʻohui pū ai mākou i kēia alakaʻi wehewehe i nā kinks a me nā fetishes. Ma lalo, e heluhelu no ka wehewehe ʻana i ke ʻano o ka kink a me ke ʻano o ka fetish—a me nā ʻike e pili ana i ka pehea e ʻimi ai i nā kinks a me nā fetishes hiki.
ʻO ka kink kekahi mea e hele ana ma mua o nā palena maʻamau o ka mea a ka lehulehu e manaʻo ai he "maʻamau" ka moekolohe a ke hoʻāla nei i ka makemake i ka moekolohe.
Ma muli o ka mea i manaʻo ʻia he kink e pili ana i ka mea maʻamau a ʻaʻole paha kou honua kaiaulu, ua hilinaʻi nui ia i nā kumu like ʻole, e like me:
No laila, no ka laʻana, ʻo ka mea e hoʻolohe nui ana i ke mele ʻāina (me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokomo nui ʻana i nā kamaʻilio anal) e ʻike paha i ko lākou hauʻoli i ka moekolohe anal ma ke ʻano he kink anal. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻo ka poʻe nona ke mele punahele ʻo "Truffle Butter" e manaʻo wale paha he makemake ko lākou aloha i ka anal.
ʻO ia hoʻi, inā ʻōlelo kekahi he ʻano ʻē lākou, pono ʻoe e nīnau i nā kikoʻī e ʻike ai i ke ʻano o ia mea. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e nīnau ~i kekahi kanaka~ i kahi nīnau pilikino.
"ʻO nā kinks maʻamau ka mana a me ka hoʻolohe ʻana, ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana a me ka sadomasochism (ʻo ia ka mea e kū nei i nā leka ma BDSM)," wahi a ka mea hacker moekolohe a me ke kumu aʻo moekolohe ʻo Kenneth Play, no ka mea nāna i hoʻokumu i ke kaiāulu pili i ka moekolohe honua ʻo Hacienda Villa.
Wahi a Kauka Carol Queen, he loea moekolohe o ka hui mea pāʻani moekolohe ʻo Good Vibrations, aia kekahi mau wehewehe ʻana i ʻae ʻia no nā fetishes.
"I kēia manawa, ʻaʻole i wehewehe pinepine nā mea hoʻonaʻauao moekolohe i nā fetishes e like me ke ʻano o ka moekolohe," wahi a Queen. "Akā, ʻōlelo kahi wehewehe hou ʻia he mau mea hoʻoikaika porn nā fetishes."
Eia kekahi laʻana, hiki i kahi mea me ka fetish ʻulaʻula ke hiki (a hauʻoli!) ke moe me kahi mea ʻaʻohe ona ʻulaʻula, wahi āna. "Akā, he kūikawā nō nā ʻulaʻula a hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i ka porn ma ke ʻano ʻoi aku ka ikaika ma mua o ka wā ʻaʻole ia ma laila," wahi āna.
ʻO Tyler Sparks, he kumu aʻo ponokala a me ka mea nāna i hoʻokumu iā Organic Loven, kekahi o nā hale kūʻai pilikino pūnaewele nui loa a BIPOC, wahi a ia, ua wehewehe ʻia ka ʻokoʻa i kekahi manawa ʻo ia ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o nā pono (fetishes) a me nā makemake (kinks).
"Ua ʻike kekahi ua hoʻoulu ka ʻaʻahu ʻana i nā kuʻekuʻe wāwae kiʻekiʻe i ka wā o ka moekolohe i ka pīhoihoi," wahi āna. "Akā, ʻo ka poʻe e pono e ʻaʻahu i nā kuʻekuʻe wāwae kiʻekiʻe i ka wā o ka moekolohe e ʻike i ka hoʻonāukiuki he mau fetish kuʻekuʻe wāwae kiʻekiʻe."
I kekahi manawa, ua wehewehe ʻia kēia ʻokoʻa ma ke ʻano he ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka hoʻāla ʻia ʻana e kahi hana moekolohe, kahi ʻāina, a i ʻole ka ikaika (kink) a me ka hoʻāla ʻia ʻana e kahi mea, mea, a i ʻole ʻāpana kino ʻaʻole genital (fetish).
Inā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻoholo inā he kink a he fetish paha kekahi mea, hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau iā ʻoe iho i kekahi mau nīnau:
ʻAe. Loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kahi quirk a me kahi fetish. a i ʻole nā ​​​​mea ʻelua. Loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kekahi mau lā e like me ka kink, a ʻo kekahi he makemake.
"ʻO ka ʻimi ʻana i nā mea ʻelua e pili ana i ka wehe ʻana i nā huakaʻi ponokala, ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i kāu mea e mahalo nui ai a me ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi huli ʻana, i kekahi manawa e hana ana me ka hilahila o ka ʻokoʻa, a me ka ʻike ʻana i ke ʻano o kēia mau mea i kou ola a me ka moekolohe me nā hoa kūpono i ke ʻano," wahi āna.
"No kekahi poʻe, ua ʻike iki ʻia kā lākou mau fetishes a me nā fetishes," wahi a Play. "Inā, no ka laʻana, i ke kauwela o kou wā ʻōpio, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke pale aku i ka nānā ʻana i nā wāwae o nā mea a pau e ʻaʻahu ana i nā kāmaʻa, a manaʻo i ka huhū mai ka ʻike ʻana i nā wāwae, e ʻike maoli ʻoe he aloha ʻoe i nā wāwae."
I kēia manawa, no kekahi poʻe, ʻo ke kink a i ʻole ka fetish paha kekahi mea a lākou e ʻike ai ma ka ʻimi ʻana i nā mea, e like me ka porn, nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni, a i ʻole kahi ipo hou e hōʻike ana iā lākou i nā mea hou. Ke ʻike nei i nā mea hou, ʻike ʻoe i nā ʻano mea like ʻole e pili ana i nā mea āu e makemake ai a me nā mea āu e makemake ʻole ai, wahi āna.
Inā ʻoe ma kahi hoʻomoana hope a makemake ʻoe e aʻo hou e pili ana i kāu mau quirks a me nā fetishes, e kōkua kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo.
"Aia kahi loiloi pūnaewele manuahi, i kapa ʻia ʻo ka hoʻāʻo BDSM, hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e aʻo hou e pili ana i nā kinks āu e makemake ai," wahi a Sparks. "He wahi hoʻomaka maikaʻi ia."
E hoʻokomo i nā ʻano hana like ʻole, nā hoʻonohonoho, nā wahi, a me nā mea i loko o kahi papa inoa o nā kolamu e pili ana i kou hoihoi i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana, a hiki i kahi papa inoa "ʻae-ʻaʻole-malia paha" ke kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i nā mea e hoʻonāukiuki ai i kou kino.
Aia nā papa inoa ʻAe-ʻAʻole-Malia paha ma ka Pūnaewele. Akā no ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kāu mau quirks a me nā fetishes, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka loaʻa ʻana o hoʻokahi me kahi panakō ma lalo, e like me kēia mai Bex Talks.
"E like me nā ʻike kanaka a pau, loli nā mea a me nā kūlana," wahi āna. "I kekahi manawa, ʻaʻole like ka hoihoi o nā mea e hoʻonāukiuki iā ʻoe i kou mau makahiki 20. Akā, i ko mākou ʻike nui ʻana i ko mākou kino a me nā makemake, no ka mea, he ʻano hoihoi maoli nā kānaka, ke ʻimi nei mākou i nā ʻike like ʻole."
Mai nā wikiō ponokala a i nā kiʻi ponokala i kākau ʻia, nā ʻaha kūkā pūnaewele a i nā kahua kamaʻilio, ua piha ka pūnaewele i nā manawa kūpono e aʻo hou ai e pili ana i kāu mau fetishes a me nā fetishes.
"E kipa aku i kahi pūnaewele porn, e like me Royal Fetish Films, e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi manawa e ʻike ai i kāu kink i ka hana," wahi āna. "ʻO kekahi pūnaewele kink ʻo FetLife, kahi pūnaewele pilikanaka fetish a me kink. Ma laila ʻoe e ʻike ai i nā poʻe he nui e like me ʻoe e ʻimi nei, ʻike a/a i aʻo ʻia."
Ma o kēia mau pūnaewele, wahi āna, hiki iā ʻoe ke heluhelu i kā lākou mau moʻolelo a nīnau paha i kahi luna hoʻomalu hui i hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha nīnau e pili ana i kāu mau quirks ponoʻī a pehea lākou i ʻike ai i kā lākou.
ʻO ka noho ʻana i waho i kou wahi hōʻoluʻolu a me ka wahi ʻoluʻolu ʻole e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo maikaʻi i kou moekolohe a me nā fetishes, wahi a Sparks.
"ʻO ka ʻike ʻana i kou mau palena ponoʻī e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i ka mea āu e makemake ai e ʻimi a ʻaʻole ka mea," wahi āna.
E ʻokoʻa nā mea āu e aʻo ai ma muli o nā mea kikoʻī āu e makemake ai e ʻimi. Akā naʻe: he mea pono ia.
"Pono ka hoʻonaʻauao ma mua o kou ʻike, ʻoiai inā pili i kekahi mea e pili ana i ka pāʻani mana ikaika, ka ʻeha, ke kāohi ʻana, a i ʻole kekahi mea ʻē aʻe i manaʻo ʻia he mea weliweli," wahi a Play. He mea nui kēia hoʻonaʻauao e mālama iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa i ka palekana ma ke kino, ka naʻau, a me ka ʻuhane.
No kēia ʻano aʻo ʻana, paipai ʻo ia e hoʻolimalima i kahi loea moe kolohe—no ka laʻana, he kumu aʻo moe kolohe, he mea hoʻoponopono moe kolohe, he mea hana moe kolohe, a he mea hana moe kolohe paha.
Ua hoʻoikaika ʻo Queen e loaʻa i nā mea hana moekolohe ka ʻike nui ma nā wahi ʻelua, e lilo ana lākou i koho maikaʻi loa no ka ʻimi ʻana i nā kinks a i ʻole nā ​​​​fetishes no ka manawa mua.
"Loaʻa paha i nā loea ka ʻike hou aku e pili ana i nā kinks like ʻole, a ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ke kamaʻilio a me ke kūkākūkā ʻana me ia, a hiki ke like me kahi hoʻonohonoho lab no ka ʻimi ʻana i kāu moekolohe," wahi āna.
Inā makemake ʻoe e ʻimi pū me kahi hoa, ʻōlelo ʻo ia he mea nui e koho i kahi hoa āu e ʻoluʻolu ai e kamaʻilio pū me - a ʻo ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe.
"ʻOiai ma mua o kou komo ʻana i nā ʻano pāʻani moe kolohe like ʻole me kekahi, hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo i ko lākou ʻoluʻolu i ka moekolohe, pehea ka maʻalahi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me lākou, a inā paha e hōʻike lākou i nā hoʻoholo e pili ana i nā koho moekolohe a haʻi e hoʻoholo ai inā kūpono lākou," wahi āna.
ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ke koho ʻana i kahi hoa hana e ʻoluʻolu me kāu ʻōlelo kino (a me ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe) a makemake e hana pū me ʻoe ma ka noiʻi mua.
I ka hopena o ka lā, ʻaʻohe mea nui inā ua hoʻokaʻawale ʻia nā mea āu e makemake ai i ka moekolohe he kinky, fetish, a i ʻole ʻaʻole hoʻi! Akā e ʻimi i nā mea e lawe mai iā ʻoe i ka hauʻoli ma ke ʻano palekana, manuahi a hauʻoli hoʻi.
He mea kākau moʻolelo no ka moekolohe a me ke olakino ma New York ʻo Gabrielle Kassel a he kumu aʻo CrossFit Level 1. Ua lilo ʻo ia i kanaka kakahiaka, e hoʻāʻo ana ma mua o 200 mau vibrators, e ʻai ana, e inu ana, e palaki ana me ka lanahu - a pau ma ka inoa o ka nūpepa. I kona manawa kaʻawale, hiki iā ia ke heluhelu i nā puke kōkua ponoʻī a me nā puke moʻolelo aloha, ka bench press a i ʻole ka hula pou. E hahai iā ia ma Instagram.
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